I think I’ve established the importance of contentment and living a full life when considering a life partner enough in previous articles. This removes any desperation that would cause us to make a life-altering decision out of desperation rather than discernment.
Discernment allows us to make good choices that will be more beneficial to us in not only the short term but the long term. Both men and women need to practice discernment. Below are 5 green flags to look for when considering a spouse. These green flags are inspired by my 3rd book, “Patterns of the Heart: Discernment in Choosing a Potential Spouse.”
Someone Who is Committed to Growth and Perseverance
We all know that marriage is work. Also, we know that life happens. This means that there will be difficulties that occur outside of the control of the married couple. All of these things and more create pressure on an already strenuous process of marriage—where two people are becoming one.
This is growth accelerated. Growth is often uncomfortable and the older we get growth isn’t always celebrated. Will your chosen spouse have enough perseverance not to give up on the marriage, God, or any other goals that require them to persevere? We cannot foretell our futures, but we can at least seek for the quality of perseverance in our potential spouse.
