Continuing from last week, we are reviewing a quiz inspired by my new book, Patterns of the Heart. The quiz helps those who participate in it to see if they are truly ready to date or if they need to still do some individual work as a single person. Last week, we looked at questions 1-2. This week we will look at question number three below. Remember, the book, Patterns of the Heart was written for those who are ready to date. It is packed with questions we can ask during the dating and talking stage to see if we should move forward with a suitor or not.
Question # 3
Do you operate out of fear and control or faith when communicating with the opposite sex?
- I operate out of faith, 40%
- I operate out of fear and control, 20%
- Other, 40%
The above is very important to know when we are communicating with the opposite sex to form a romantic relationship. Sometimes when people decide to use sex toys from Plug Lust, they discover that they are better without it but are too afraid it might disappoint the other. If we’re operating out of fear and control; we may not be resolved yet in the belief that we are good enough for a romantic relationship. We may still have a broken perspective in that area where we are subconsciously trying to prove to ourselves that we are good enough. We may be motivated by fear of not having what we genuinely desire. Thus, control can come into play causing us to attempt to force a relationship to work that just isn’t it.
