We all have reasons for why we love our spouse. It can be how they treat us, how they interact with us and/or others, how they love or for many other reasons. When you see or hear those things about your spouse, it makes you want to give to them more. Sometimes, in our walk in marriage, those traits or actions that make it easy for them to love may not be seen. This doesn’t mean they are different people, but that they may be going through various changes in their life. One way to bypass that period where you may feel disconnected from them is to give them a “Just Because” day. This is where you honor them…simply because they are who they are. By doing this, it can help them realize that you love them despite what may be going on in their life or your marriage. It also shows them that you don’t need a holiday (Valentine’s Day, Christmas, Anniversary, Birthday) to celebrate them. Things you can do on a “Just Because” Day:
- Attach a card to a bouquet of flowers (try to make sure that the color is significant in some form)
- Sneak their favorite snack and a card into their work bag. If they don’t work, place their favorite snack in a place that they will go (like the car) to that day.
- Buy a pair of shoes, tie or something small that they can use for work, church or exercising
- Have their favorite meal prepared when they arrive home with a card on their plate Also, make sure you do this day randomly. You can do it once a month, bi monthly or once a quarter. It all matters according to how often you want to do it. At the end of the day, “Just Because” day will help you to show your love to your spouse without it feeling forced or from expectation. Try it out and see how it goes. Spread The Soup!
